Most Important Factor for Success – Delayed Gratification

Joachim de Posada says, Don’t eat the marshmallow yet

I’m here because I have a very important message. I think we have found the most important factor for success. And it was found close to here, Stanford. Psychology professor took kids that were four years old and put them in a room all by themselves. And he would tell the child, a four year old kid, “Johnny, I am going to leave you here with a marshmallow, for 15 minutes. If after I come back this marshmallow is here, you will get another one. So you will have two.” To tell a four year old kid to wait 15 minutes for something that they like, is equivalent to telling us, “We’ll bring you coffee in two hours.” (Laughter) Exact equivalent.

So what happened when the professor left the room? As soon as the door closed… two out of three ate the marshmallow. Five seconds, 10 seconds, 40 seconds, 50 seconds, two minutes, four minutes, eight minutes. Some lasted 14 and a half minutes. (Laughter) Couldn’t do it. Could not wait. What’s interesting is that one out of three would look at the marshmallow and go like this … Would look at it. Put it back. They would walk around. They would play with their skirts and pants.

That child already, at four, understood the most important principle for success. Which is the ability to delay gratification. Self discipline, the most important factor for success. 15 years later, 14 or 15 years later, follow-up study. What did they find? They went to look for these kids who were now 18 and 19. And they found that 100 percent of the children that had not eaten the marshmallow were successful. They had good grades. They were doing wonderful. They were happy. They had their plans. They had good relationships with the teachers, students. They were doing fine.

A great percentage of the kids that ate the marshmallow, they were in trouble. They did not make it to university. They had bad grades. Some of them dropped out. A few were still there with bad grades. A few had good grades.

I had a question in my mind: Would Hispanic kids react the same way as the American kids? So I went to Colombia. And I reproduced the experiment. And it was very funny. I used four, five and six years old kids. And let me show you what happened.

(Laughter)

So what happened in Colombia? Hispanic kids, two our of three ate the marshmallow. One out of three did not. This little girl was interesting. She ate the inside of the marshmallow. (Laughter) In other words, she wanted us to think that she had not eaten it, so she would get two. But she ate it. So we know she’ll be successful. But we have to watch her. (Laughter) She should not go into banking, for example, or work at a cash register. But she will be successful.

And this applies for everything. Even in sales. The sales person that — The customer says, “I want that.” And the person says, “Okay, here you are.” That person ate the marshmallow. If the sales person says, “Wait a second. Let me ask you a few questions to see if this is a good choice.” Then you sell a lot more. So this has applications in all walks of life.

I end with — the Koreans did this. You know what? This is so good That we want a marshmallow book for children. We did one for children. And now it is all over Korea. They are teaching these kids exactly this principle. And we need to learn that principle here in the States. Because we have a big debt. We are eating more marshmallows than we are producing. Thank you so much.

Pandora es no bueno en Mexico

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eHarmony..harmony? what?

Is eHarmony losing touch with their singles?  I couldn’t  resist posting these excerpts from a profile I was recently matched with…

The most important thing xxx is looking for in a person is:
Must be genuine, trustworthy, and have strong character. Must love the arts. Must be a non-participant of mainstream/commercial culture as it applies to entertainment. Must be cultured. Must think outside the box. If you listen to top 40’s, trust me – this won’t work. Must be intelligent/intellectual. No, I don’t like sports. Must have utmost respect for women. Must be a naturally chivalrous gentleman, want to proceed with/courtship, and treat me like a lady – i.e. opening doors- including cars, carrying bags, taking us out on fun & romantic dates, picking up all tabs, etc. Must be physically fit. NO EXCEPTIONS.

NO EXCEPTIONS? ALL TABS?

If the above paragraph isn’t revealing enough, she hits it home with her response to the “something more about me” question…

Some additional information xxx wanted you to know is:
As you can probably already tell – I KNOW WHAT I WANT. I’m strong-minded & intense. Again, I demand the utmost respect. I don’t want any machismo, domineering, controlling, pansy, wimpy, emotionally immature, emotionally unavailable, emotionally instable, or emotionally inept men. Again, I’m old fashioned when it comes to dating and courtship, and will only be treated as a lady. ART LOVERS ONLY!!! NO EXCEPTIONS! Best of luck to all!

I’m floored at this .. floored!

When closing a match, eHarmony asks you to provide a reason…  I usually select one but I just couldn’t resist:

  • I don’t feel that the chemistry is there.
  • I don’t think our Must Haves and Can’t Stands fit.
  • I want to pursue other matches at eharmony.
  • I think the difference in our values is too great.
  • Based on statements in their profile, I’m not interested in this match.
  • Other

shoot me. shoot me shoot me.

The Stole of Gratitude!

I was blown away when Cody presented me with his Stole..

The Stole of Gratitude offers an opportunity to say, “Thanks for helping me make it through.” “Thanks for making it possible for me to succeed.” “I didn’t do this alone.” the Stole of Gratitude is worn during the commencement ceremony. After the ceremony, the new graduate presents the Stole of Gratitude to someone who provided extraordinary help or support, i.e., parents, relatives, or mentors who have helped with wisdom, words of support or with financial assistance. Immediately after graduation, the graduate may take the stole from around his/her neck and place it around the neck of the recipient.