Low Weight: 2 people “getting to know each other” and doing so alone in a dark room complicate things unnecessarily. Have fun, be yourself, talk with and and get to know each other.
High Reps: Meet lots of people and don’t let things get heavy. Stop ONLY when you find someone who “does it” for you.
That’s it.. now get to it!
(Anyhow, you’re bound to strike oil, or something less messy – gold – someday soon. I like your theory.)